Where can I meet with
Journeys of the Heart Staff to privately discuss
my situation and have my questions answered?
pick the location with privacy that feels best
to you – your home, a restaurant, a park, or our
office. All you need to do is call and
tell us when and where you’d like to meet.
if I don’t want counseling? You decide if you want
The service is
available but we would never force it on anyone.
anything provided by Journeys cost me money? There
is no charge to you for any service.
What types of adoptions
does Journeys facilitate?
Our staff will help you explore the type of
adoption arrangement that best suits you.
We complete open, semi-open and closed
relationship is between the child, birth parent
and adopting parents.
There can be
visits, phone calls, e-mails and or letters and
adoption agreement has one to three visits per
year with letters and pictures being sent
This allows for
the child to know that he or she is loved and
cared about by the birth family and a chance to
know the birth parent.
It also gives
the child access to family history, stories,
families and birth parents agree to more
Semi-Open Adoption: Letters and
pictures are exchanged between the adopting
parent(s) and the birth parent(s).
This keeps the
birth parent current with what is happening in
the child’s life.
Closed Adoption: No contact of
any kind between the adopting parent(s) and the
What about my expenses?
Journeys of the Heart can pay for any expenses
that are related to the pregnancy. These
include food, shelter, maternity clothes and
medical coverage. You work directly with
the staff to come up with a plan regarding your
financial needs. Even after you have
chosen a family you continue to interact with
the staff regarding your money needs.
Journeys does not believe it is a good idea for
families and birth parents to directly work out
expenses because problems can come up that might
jeopardize the relationship.
What if i dont have a
place to live and need Emergency housing? Journeys staff will
help you find emergency housing or an apartment,
depending upon your needs.
When do I sign legal
papers regarding the adoption?
Each state has different laws about signing
legal documents. For instance, in Oregon
you would sign legal documents prior to being
discharged from the hospital. In Illinois
you can sign 72 hours after the birth. In
Washington you can sign prior to the birth and
the documents become legally binding 48 hours
after the birth.
happens if I change my mind?
Changing your mind is
your right any time before you sign the legal
the documents are signed and the baby is in the
custody of the adopting parents the adoption is
a binding agreement except in Washington where
the documents are legally binding 48 hours after
What happens at the
Adopting parents are called and are at the
hospital during the birth. You decide if
you want them in your room or if you want them
to be called in afterwards. Journeys staff
will be available to you at the hospital.
You may spend as much or as little time with the
baby as you want alone, with you and your
family, or with the adopting parents.
about the birth father?
We are pleased to work
with birth fathers during this process, fully
incorporating them into the adoption plan.
However, if the
birth father is not involved we do not need his
Each state has
different laws about notifying the birth father.
We will discuss
this with you and how it pertains to your
What about naming the
baby? We encourage the
adopting parents to honor the name that you
would like your baby to have if you would like
to be involved in the naming.
We believe the
name you choose is an incredible gift for the
adopting parents and you come up with the name
How do I choose a couple
to adopt my baby? You
can look at portfolios which include a letter to
you and photos of the adopting parent’s lives.
This will give
you visual images of them, their home and their
If you want to
know more about them or are having a hard time
choosing, we can give you their home study, a
document completed by a social worker that
approves them for adoption (without any
will give you an in-depth idea about their
childhood and early adult history as well as
more information about their marriage, parenting
style, values and ideas about adoption.
To see a sample of families waiting to adopt a
child right now?
to view a sample of waiting families.
After selecting a family,
what is the next step?
Once you have chosen a family you will usually
meet with them. If they are an
out-of-state couple then you might want to talk
with them on the phone or receive a videotape of
them. All out-of-state couples are willing
to fly to your state to meet with you. The
meeting takes place at a restaurant or at the
Journeys’ office with your coordinator present.
Usually this meeting confirms your feelings of
wanting them to parent your child.
How can I be sure that the
couple I choose to adopt my baby are good
of the Heart completes a thorough investigation
of all couples who come to adopt through this
abuse and criminal checks are done on each
person as well as an FBI check.
A social worker
spends time with the family in their home and
they speak about many issues that are important
The home is
inspected for safety issues, housekeeping
standards and general suitability for a child.
send in letters that speak to the family’s
ability to raise a child and the strengths and
weaknesses of their marriage.
completed by a doctor
health is another requirement. The family’s
latest IRS 1040 to prove income is also
social worker has met with the family for a
lengthy period of time, inspected their home and
reviewed all the supporting documents, he or she
makes a recommendation either supporting them as
adoptive parents or not.
Journeys of the
Heart does not approve all families who apply.
All families will have
gone through Journeys of the Heart’s extensive
adoption education program which explores
talking to young children about adoption,
adoption issues at each stage of a child’s
development, trans-racial adoption, attachment
and bonding theory, adoption vocabulary,
adoption and the teenager and more.
discusses the importance of always presenting
the birth parents in a loving and caring way to
How can I be sure that the
adopting parents will follow through with
letters and pictures?
The adopting parents
sign a document
that is legally
binding in many states agreeing to send the
number of letters and pictures and providing the
Journeys of the
Heart supports you in getting enforcement of any
parents are so grateful to you that they would
never consider not sending what you wanted from
What if my baby is born
with a serious medical issue?
If your baby was born with a major medical issue
Journeys will locate a family who will provide a
loving, safe and permanent home.
Any other questions you may have, feel free to
contact our staff at any time.